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This 1 Simple Act Primes Your Marriage for Romance

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Email By Jamie C. Williamson, PhD The secret to long-lasting romance in marriage is simple, inexpensive, and fool proof. You’ve probably figured out that it isn’t a candlelit dinner on your anniversary or the obligatory sex that followed.  And, unless you learn this one simple secret it won’t be your

3 Reasons Couples Who Play Together, Stay Together

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C.  Williamson, PhD Married couples who play together, stay together.   But that doesn’t mean you should treat your marriage like a game.  If you treat your marriage like a game, you’ll get played and lose every time. What this does mean is that couples who “play together”

What Type of Divorced Co-Parenting Partner Are You?

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Divorce should not be entered into lightly, especially if you are a parent.   Marriages may dissolve. But, co-parenting is truly a “to death do us part” commitment, including all of the family life events in between.  Parents must choose (and it is a choice) whether

These 3 R’s Let your Happy Relationship Bloom Naturally

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy  Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Spring symbolizes rebirth and reminds us of the constant opportunity to refresh and renew our lives and our relationships. And, if couples don’t get too caught up in “making” a happy holiday, they can use the accompanying spring break to relax and reflect on how to

Secret to Romance in Marriage Will Surprise You

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Email By Jamie C. Williamson, PhD The secret to long-lasting romance in marriage is surprisingly simple, inexpensive, and fool proof. It isn’t  a “romantic” candlelit dinner on Valentine’s Day.  And, unless you learn this simple secret and get primed for romance soon, it won’t be your Spring Break get-away to

Protect Your Marriage: Eliminate These 4 Toxic Interactions

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C Williamson, PhD I’ve been working with couples who resolved to make one final effort to restore the happiness in their marriage. They sincerely want to try, but also don’t want to prolong the pain or keep rehashing the same tired arguments. So, they begin by asking “How

Follow the 5-Step Path to “Just Be Grateful”

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Happy people have figured out that it is not happiness that makes you grateful, it is gratefulness that makes you happy. So, the trick to having a Happy Thanksgiving is simple: “Just Be Grateful” and, like this cornucopia, your holiday will be overstuffed with joyful

It’s time! 5 Steps to Finally Letting it Go

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Fall is the time when trees remind us how important – and beautiful—it can be to let things go. Trees let go of their leaves to save energy and protect themselves from damaging conditions. As the days grow shorter, trees sense the natural loss of

4 Habits To Keep Your Marriage Golden Even When You’re Gray

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C. Williamson, PhD So, you’ve been thinking that if you made it through the seven-year-itch, a mid-life crisis (or two), and your kids’ teenage years, you’d be golden, right? Probably…. but maybe not. Although the divorce rate is declining for couples under 40, the divorce rate is on

Want a Future? Choose Forgiveness, Not Fighting

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD My friend Mike confided to me yesterday that he and his wife of over 20 years are getting a divorce.   Although the split was her idea, he was quick to choose to forgive her and focus on building a stable future for himself, his wife, and

Four Warning Signs on the Road to Divorce

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C. Williamson, PhD There are four signs that signal a progressive, downward relationship spiral leading to divorce.   But, you can learn to recognize these cautionary signals and take a detour that will put you back on the path to a long, satisfying marriage. Which couple are you? This

The Truth About Lies: Motives Matter

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Is it ever ok to lie?  Not all lies are unexpected.  Not all lies are unethical.  Not all lies hurt others.  In fact, sometimes lying is the right thing to do. Sometimes.  But, not usually.  Especially in a close personal relationship grounded in trust, like

Want a Long, Happy Marriage? Be Loving AND Stubborn

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C. Williamson, PhD You might be surprised to learn that stubbornness in marriage is a good thing. And a gift  that proves it is even better. Some spouses try to create a happy marriage through grand romantic gestures like sending flowers, planning romantic dinners, or wearing sexy lingerie.

Resolving to Be Happy Might Require the Courage to Divorce

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Email by Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Many people started out the New Year thinking about getting a divorce, even if they didn’t realize it at first. People rarely include “get a divorce” on their list of resolutions. Instead, divorce becomes the unhappy (but necessary) by-product of resolutions like “This is

Money Can’t Buy Love, But the Right Gift Can

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C. Williamson, PhD     ‘tis the season. But, before you buy a diamond necklace, a food processor, a bag of new golf clubs, or any other gift for your partner, consider this. Most gift givers assume that a more expensive present will be more appreciated, yet, receivers don’t

Why and How to Date Your Spouse: 6 Tips for Successful Date Nights

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Most couples know they are supposed to have a regular “Date Night”. Unfortunately, along the way they let familiar routines and their life partner/parenting roles overshadowed their on-going need for novel activities and their role as romantic partners.  They just can’t seem to have a

Beware the Calm Before the Stormy 7 Stages of Divorce

Share Follow Share Share Tweet Emailby Jamie C. Williamson, PhD Divorcing couples do move through predictable and understandable stages of divorce, each associated with different practical concerns, emotions, and typical behavior patterns. But, divorce initiation often begins with a seemingly calm, barely detectable phase.   You have to pay close attention or it will catch

Effective Apologies Turn Conflict Aftermath into Healing Afterglow

Share Follow Share Share Tweet EmailBy Jamie C. Williamson, PhD I’ve said it a thousand times, but people still don’t believe me.      Conflict can actually be good for your relationship. Conflict can lead to greater understanding. Conflict can clarify similarities, differences, and preferences. Conflict can help couples learn how to deal with future conflict. And,